In a healthy relationship, vulnerability is wonderful. It leads to increased intimacy and closer bonds. When a healthy person realizes that he or she hurt you, they feel remorse and they make amends. It’s safe to be honest. In an abusive system, vulnerability is dangerous. It’s considered a weakness, which acts as an invitation for more mistreatment. Abusive people feel a surge of power when they discover a weakness. They exploit it, using it to gain more power. Crying or complaining confirms that they’ve poked you in the right spot. Christina Enevoldsen
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It is important that you realize that the best relationships are those that are built on trust. If you feel that you can be open and honest with your partner then you will have a healthy relationship. The best relationships have no secrets, they are always open and honest with each other. When someone is being abused, they should stay away from this relationship as it is simply not safe for them.

Source: The Rescued Soul: The Writing Journey For The Healing Of Incest And Family Betrayal

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